Jane, our Counselling and Bereavement Services Manager, shares some ideas to remember a loved one.
“When a loved one has died some people may find comfort in activities to remember that loved one and recount the time they spent together. We often make or at the hospice – adults and children alike find them therapeutic and beneficial. There are lots of other ways to remember a loved one though, I’ve listed just a few of these below. You may find none of these ideas appeal to you but hopefully, they’ll inspire you to think of other ways to remember your loved one.
Plant in remembrance
Planting Forget Me
Forget Me Not seeds can also make an empathic gift for someone who is grieving.
Alternatively, you could plant a tree, flower garden, or butterfly garden to remember your loved one. There is a satisfaction that comes with giving and growing life whilst remembering a loved one, and it is a lasting remembrance project.
Memory bunting can be a creative and lasting way to remember someone who has died. It can be made with a fabric or pattern inspired my memories of them or even have memories written directly onto each piece of bunting. There’s a lot of choice in creating different patterns, shapes, and choosing different colours to make it unique to your loved one.
Finding a stone that reminds you of a loved one and is comforting to hold can be a good way to remember. Stones provide a brilliant canvas to create or paint memories of a loved one on to- even writing their name on a stone can be a way to remember them. Stones can be placed in favourite spots, under trees, in gardens – there’s a lot of possibilities.
This is quite a long-standing way to remember a loved one and is very simple. You can light a candle whenever you want to remember your time with them or on the anniversaries that are special to you. This can be a lasting, and comforting connector between you and another life.
Blowing bubbles is always fun; watching them bounce around towards the sky and twist with the wind. It also requires you to exhale and breathe. This is a great way to release your feelings and just let go.
During a lengthy illness, following the funeral, or sometimes long after the death of a loved one grief may become more than you are able or willing to handle. There are services and support which can help you through this time.
Useful Services and information:
Cruse Bereavement Service
Winston’s Wish has a wealth of resources and advice on how to support your child through bereavement, whilst also dealing with your own grief. They also have a free phone helpline you can call.
Childhood Bereavement UK
Child Bereavement UK supports families and educates professionals when a baby or child of any age dies or is dying, or when a child is facing bereavement.